Posts by Mary J Blige

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I now hate being called 'sister'

by purrpurr in

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since waking up i find i am bridling at being called 'sister'.

but it feels like an identity that is being forced on me.. i feel like shouting "i have a name you know!".

it is just me or does anyone else recognise this?.

Mary J Blige

I recall my daughter asking if she had to refer to my dad as "Brother Grandad" lol lol lol and I recall feeling odd about explaining that to a 5 yr old as it sounded incestuous dumbed down.

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Are they trying to make me feel like crap?

by StarTrekAngel in

so i have not reported a single hour of fs or family worship in over 8 months.

have not given a single comment in a meeting for over a year.

a few weeks ago, my brother in law, who is an ms now, approached me.

Mary J Blige

How interesting that the CO recognises that depression and worldly pressures are contributing factors in the poor state of the congregations atm....

It is obvious to ex JWs and faders that the path of least resistance is to cite depression or anxiety as a hassle free demotion mechanism. Who is really going to challenge you about that under the banner of love?

Fascinating prospect: I wonder how many "spiritually weak" are actually "awake"? I wonder how many people in your circuit are pondering the same questions that you are at this time and you just don't know it? How many are "crippled with fictitious anxiety" and it is unnoticed by the blinded COs who brand it a sign of the times?

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I Made the Literature Trolley Run Away Today - Twice

by cofty in

i popped into town this morning to buy an anniversary card for mrs cofty.

it is market day on a saturday and it's tourist season so the town was very busy.

here is a picture of the scene from a year ago... two cult carts were in their favourite place being guarded by none other than one of the elders who was on my judicial committee, his wife and another jw woman in her electric disability buggy.

Mary J Blige

Isn't there a little brown book Reasoning with the Scriptures that has an entire section on how to rebuff conversation stoppers such as "I am not interested"?

I would delight in reading how you may have used any of these conversation stoppers and how Brian would have responded.

It is a good 15 years but I seem to recall "are you not interested in the God's Word the bible... not interested in JWs?" Etc etc. Would be great to use a conversation stopper on the trolley people just to see if they recognise what you are using on them. Oh the irony!!!

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Re: “Became So Beloved” Video

by pixel in

amid all the talking about the rc, the wt is releasing a new video:.

to all bodies of elders.

re: became so beloved video and event media document type.

Mary J Blige

Can someone please explain to me what happens at the point the branch is notified that a DA'd or DF'd person is deceased? Is that a prompt for them to destroy your personal file?

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One year of being free

by Israel Ricky Gonzales in

one year ago, this thursday, i went to work as usual.

i got home, ate dinner, got myself dressed for the meeting, and helped my kids get ready like i usually did.. my son had a talk that evening, his second one.

many of my family went to support him.

Mary J Blige

IRG: My youngest daughter's 15th birthday on the 26th. My parents for the first time ever will be joining us for our evening meal. My love for my parents has deepened as has my respect for their courage, tenacity and trust in each other. I turned worldly being born in - they, mid 60s have learned TTATT. You are lucky that you will never carry the heart burden of my parents. Enjoy your children and your grandchildren when you get there. Much love to you. MJB.

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Im ready to leave

by SpunkedTeen in

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i just found this website and im so glad because for the first time in a long time i dont feel alone...i am a born in and in the last two years have been struggling because i thought that i was the problem and i was the reason for not feeling any love from and for the other pubs .i want to leave the org but have no idea how to tell my mother(who is a faithful jw).

Mary J Blige

Great advice. Welcome. You are among those fortunate enough to have figured this out at an early age. Agree that you should keep reading and discovering for yourself all the while maintaining your respectful attitude to your mum - no matter what.

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Why some smart people believe the JWs/Bible

by jws in

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i consider myself smart.

go ahead, laugh.

i have a sense of humor too.. but i grew up a jw and also believed in the bible.

Mary J Blige

So true. For me maybe apathy. Because I was born in and my parents made those decisions that I didn't need to question? I have racked my brains as to where I was when the blood and generation flip flops came in and you know what? I think all I ever heard at meetings was white noise because I have no conscious recollection of any of it. No funny looks between peers, no hearing post match discussion - no reading this in WT and saying "hang on". For this reason I do feel dumb. I get it.

At +60, my parents, after all of their lives in this cult, having just discovered TTATT, my question to them was how could you have been deceived for so long? They are both intelligent people!? They had a range of responses that totally summed it up. The hardest thing for them is reconciliation with their foolishness for so long. It's not a cult for nothing!!

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